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10 quotes from the book "Emotional Intelligence"




1. In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels.
2. Anyone can become angry —that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way —this is not easy. ARISTOTLE, The Nicomachean Ethics
3. A belligerent samurai, an old Japanese tale goes, once challenged a Zen master to explain the concept of heaven and hell. The monk replied with scorn, "You're nothing but a lout - I can't waste my time with the likes of you!"
His very honor attacked, the samurai flew into a rage and, pulling his sword from its scabbard, yelled "I could kill you for your impertinence."
"That," the monk calmly replied, "is hell."
Startled at seeing the truth in what the master pointed out about the fury that had him in its grip, the samurai calmed down, sheathed his sword, and bowed, thanking the monk for the insight.
"And that,"said the monk "is heaven."
The sudden awakening of the samurai to his own agitated state illustrates the crucial difference between being caught up in a feeling and becoming aware that you are being swept away by it. Socrates's injunction "Know thyself" speaks to the keystone of emotional intelligence: awareness of one's own feelings as they occur.
4. People's emotions are rarely put into words, far more often they are expressed through other cues.
the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels, tone of voice, gesture, facial expression and the like.
5. Emotional self-control — delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness underlies accomplishment of every sort.
6. Leadership is not domination, but the art of persuading people to work toward a common goal.
7. There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.
8. Life is a comedy for those who think and a tragedy for those who feel. HORACE WALPOLE
9. Emotional self-awareness is the building block of the next fundamental emotional intelligence: being able to shake off a bad mood.
10. Our emotional mind will harness the rational mind to its purposes, for our feelings and reactions-rationalizations — justifying them in terms of the present moment, without realizing the influence of our emotional memory.

"Emotional Intelligence" provides an insight into the role emotions play in our ability to succeed, and highlights the value of understanding emotional intelligence.

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7 life lessons from the book "The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People"




Habit 1: Be Proactive
Stephen Covey refers to proactivity as simply taking responsibility for your life.
Those who think proactively tend to focus their efforts on what they can do something about. They think in terms of, "I can", "I will", "I prefer".

Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind
What is your end goal and what can you do to reach it?
Build a Personal Mission Statement to help you keep on track.
Having a mission statement is something that can help you focus on your goals and what you can do to meet them.

Habit 3: Put First Things First
Prioritize.
Covey states, "Putting first things first means living and being driven by the principles you value most, not by the agendas and forces surrounding you."
It allows us to access a more balanced life.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Putting your attention less on competition and more on collaboration.
When you take the time to look at what benefits both parties, it shows respect, maturity, integrity, and confidence.
It can positively affect your character and improve relationships.

Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood
Communication, specifically listening, is the basis for this habit.
Do not listen with the intent to reply, listen to understand.
Doing this is another great way to improving the relationship.

Habit 6: Synergize
Synergy refers to teamwork.
Take the time to truly accept the other person's differences. Then use that understanding to feed off of each other and gain new insight into your situation.
Next time you're in a difficult situation, try out the path to synergy.

Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw
Focus on the most important thing you have, YOU. When you 'sharpen the saw', you are taking the time you need for self-renewal.
So many times we are 'too busy' to make time for what we may need.
When our body and mind are empowered, we have no limits.

"The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" puts forward a principle-centered approach to both personal and interpersonal effectiveness. Rather than focusing on altering the outward manifestations of your behavior and attitudes, it aims to adapt your inner core, character, and motives.

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13 lessons from the book "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari"



1. Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make.
It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.

2. Never be a prisoner of your past.
Become the architect of you future.
You will never be the same.

3. Push yourself to do more and to experience more.
Harness your energy to start expanding your dreams. Yes, expand your dreams.
Don't accept a life of mediocrity when you hold such infinite potential within the fortress of your mind.
Dare to tap into your greatness.
4. Everything is created twice, first in the mind and then in reality.

5. Your "I CAN" is more important than your IQ.

6. Laughter opens your heart and soothes your soul.
No one should ever take life so seriously that they forget to laugh at themselves.

7. Laughter opens your heart and soothes your soul.
No one should ever take life so seriously that they forget to laugh at themselves.

8. It's not what you will get out of the books that is so enriching - it is what the books will get out of you that will ultimately change your life.

9. Success on the outside means nothing unless you also have success within.

10. Every event has a purpose and every setback its lesson.
I have realized that failure, whether of the personal, professional or even spiritual kind, is essential to personal expansion.
It brings inner growth and a whole host of psychic rewards.
11. One must not allow the clock and the calender to blind him to the fact that each moment of life is a miracle and mystery.

12. Take the time to think.
Discover your real reason for being here and then have the courage to act on it.

13. Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.

In "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari," Robin Sharma tells the story of a spiritual journey of self-discovery taken by Julian Mantle, a successful lawyer who gave away his material wealth in search of inner peace.

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7 quotes from the book "How To Become A People Magnet"



1. Remember a good reputation built over a long time can be
destroyed in seconds. For example, by not keeping your word. If you talk a lot but don't follow up with action, people will lose trust in you.

2. Treat others as you would like others to treat you.

3. Beware of people with false self esteem.

4. Avoid Arguments. 99 percent of all arguments end with each of the parties being even more convinced that they are right.

5. There is nothing bad about making mistakes.

6. Be around people who empower you.

7. You are what you do, not what you say you'll do.

��"How To Become А People Magnet" provides proven characteristics and methods to build rapport, form lasting relationships and make friends quicker than ever before.

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7 lessons from the book "Mind Management, Not Time Management"





1. Things are not difficult to make; what is difficult is putting ourselves in the state of mind to make them.

2. If you start your day working on the most important thing, there's less of a chance for other things to get in the way. So don't check email, don't check social media - just get right to the most important thing.

3. Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.

4. MANY of us approach productivity today as if it's the speed of production, not the quality of our thinking, that matters.
5. Your final product is no good unless your ideas are good, too.

6. Time spent doing nothing today reaps benefits tomorrow.

7. The thing that determines whether what you produce does extraordinarily well or extraordinarily poorly is the quality of vour ideas.

����"Mind Management, Not Time Management" is a book that explores how to increase personal productivity by focusing on one's thoughts and habits, rather than solely on time management

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8 quotes from the book "Zero to One"



1. Be an Optimist
While the path to success will undoubtedly be littered with failure and setbacks, you must always keep an optimistic mindset and focus on the future.

2. Focus on One Thing
The truly successful ones will put all of their effort behind one unique idea or business plan and throw all of their weight behind that effort.

3. Ignore the Common Wisdom
To be successful, to truly create a 1 from 0, you'll need to think for yourself and come up with a new product or solution that people don't already know that they need.

4. The 80/20 Rule
80% of your profits or yield will be produced by 20% of your customers or products.
This fact is also true for most of the other topics.

5. Learn How to Sell
If you aren't already good at selling, become better. If you are good, become better anyway.

6. Invest Early
Maximizing retirement savings should be a key interest to any successful entrepreneur.
It will lead to greater dividends as you age and will generate wealth much more quickly than you might think.

7. Important Truth
"What important truth do very people agree with you on?"
Your answer to it may reveal a potential pathway for your efforts or future business.

8. There's No Formula
There's no winning formula to success.
Instead, consistent success is normally found in people who constantly push themselves.

��"Zero To One" explores the ideas of how to create and capture new value in the world, as well as how to build a successful business.

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10 quotes from the book "The Happiest Man On Earth"



1. A field is empty, but if you put in the effort to grow something then you will have a garden. And that's life. Give something, something will come back. Give nothing, nothing will come back. To grow a flower is a miracle: it means you can grow more. Remember that a flower is not just a flower, it is the start of a whole garden.

2. Here is what I learned. Happiness does not fall from the sky; it is in your hands. Happiness comes from inside yourself and from the people you love. And if you are happy and healthy, you are a millionaire.

3. Your efforts today will affect people you will never know. It is your choice whether that effect is positive or negative. You can choose every day, every minute, to act in a way that may uplift a stranger, or else drag them down. The choice is easy. And it is yours to make.

4. Kindness is the greatest wealth of all. Small acts of kindness last longer than a lifetime. This lesson, that kindness and generosity and faith in your fellow man are more important than money, is the first and greatest lesson my father ever taught me. And in this way he will always be with us, and always live forever.

5. There are always miracles in the world, even when all seems hopeless. And when there are no miracles, you can make them happen. With a simple act of kindness, you can save another person from despair, and that might just save their life. And this is the greatest miracle of all.

6. It is never too late to be kind, polite, and a loving human being.

7. If you have the opportunity today, please go home and tell your mother how much you love her. Do this for your mother. And do it for your new friend, Eddie, who cannot tell it to his mother.

8. My father used to say to me there is more pleasure in giving than in taking, that the important things in life - friends, family, kindness - are far more precious than money. A man is worth more than his bank account.

9. Hate is the beginning of a disease, like cancer. It may kill your enemy, but it will destroy you in the process too.

10. Shared sorrow is half sorrow; shared pleasure is double pleasure.

��"The Happiest Man on Earth" tells the story of Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian author who endured a life-changing journey in search of himself. He ventured out of his comfort zone and found himself traveling around the world, trying to make sense of his life and gain insight into what it truly means to be happy. His lessons were realized through the people he met along his journey—teachers, healers, and spiritual leaders—all leading him to discover what true happiness looks like.

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8 quotes about introverts from the book "Quiet"




1. "There's zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas."

2. "Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you're supposed to."

3. "The highly sensitive [introverted] tend to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than materialistic or hedonistic. They dislike small talk. They often describe themselves as creative or intuitive."

4. "Don't think of introversion as something that needs to be cured."

5. "The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk."

6. "At school you might have been prodded to come "out of your shell"—that noxious expression which fails to appreciate that some animals naturally carry shelter everywhere they go, and that some humans are just the same."

7. "Stay true to your own nature.
If you like to do things in a slow and steady way, don't let others make you feel as if you have to race.
If you enjoy depth, don't force yourself to seek breadth.
If you prefer single-tasking to multi-tasking, stick to your guns."

8. "Everyone shines, given the right lighting."

In Quiet, Susan Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so. She charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal throughout the twentieth century and explores how deeply it has come to permeate our culture.

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10 lessons from the book "Ikigai"


1. A wise person should not ignore life's pleasures. A wise person can live with these pleasures but should always remain conscious of how easy it is to be enslaved by them.

2. Metabolism slows down 90 percent after 30 minutes of sitting.

3. We're all going to die. Some people are scared of dying. Never be afraid to die. Because you're born to die."

4. If you keep your mind and body busy, you'll be around a long time.

5. Fill your belly to 80 percent.
6. He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how.
7. What do Japanese artisans, engineers, Zen philosophy, and cuisine have in common? Simplicity and attention to detail.

8. One of the most common mistakes among people starting to meditate is worrying about doing it "right," achieving absolute mental silence, or reaching "nirvana." The most important thing is to focus on the journey.

9. Find Your Ikigai




10. We are what we repeatedly do.
Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.

The Ikigai book introduces you to various topics related to the art of living, such as the blue zones, longevity, logotherapy, flow, yoga, tai chi, and resilience. It defines what Ikigai is and its rules. The book says that living a long and full life is under your control to an extent.

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6 lessons from the book "Mindreader"



1. By paying close attention not only to what people say but also to how they say it—their language pattern and sentence structure-you can figure out what's really going on inside their head.

2. Because telling a lie requires more mental energy than telling the truth, liars often resort to shortcuts—meaning they express themselves in a way that minimizes the need for deep thought and reflection.

3. Someone making a deceitful statement often focuses heavily on irrelevant details to mimic the natural depth and richness found in a truthful statement. He peppers the conversation with minutiae to distract you from the truth, as if he's throwing sand in your face.

4. All unhappy people have the same problem: they are unable to get along with the people they want to get along well with.
5. The guilty person wants the subject changed and the conversation to end; the innocent person always wants a further exchange of information.

6. The greater someone's ego, the more difficult it is for him to see beyond himself and his own wants and needs. Empathy requires a shift in perspective—to put yourself in another person's proverbial shoes.

Mindreader explains how to read and understand people. Written by an FBI instructor and lie-detection expert, it delves deep into how to understand situational subtext, interpret language, and determine whether a person is being honest.

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9 quotes from the book "The Happiness Hypothesis"



1. If you are in passionate love and want to celebrate your passion, read poetry. If your ardor has calmed and you want to understand your evolving relationship, read psychology. But if you have just ended a relationship and would like to believe you are better off without love, read philosophy.

2. Love and work are to people what water and sunshine are to plants.

3. Happiness is not something that you can find, acquire, or achieve directly. You have to get the conditions right and then wait. Some of those conditions are within you, such as coherence among the parts and levels of your personality. Other conditions require relationships to things beyond you: Just as plants need sun, water, and good soil to thrive, people need love, work, and a connection to something larger. It is worth striving to get the right relationships between yourself and others, between yourself and your work, and between yourself and something larger than yourself. If you get these relationships right, a sense of purpose and meaning will emerge.

4. Those who think money can't buy happiness just don't know where to shop ... People would be happier and healthier if they took more time off and spent it with their family and friends, yet America has long been heading in the opposite direction. People would be happier if they reduced their commuting time, even if it meant living in smaller houses, yet American trends are toward even larger houses and ever longer commutes. People would be happier and healthier if they took longer vacations even if that meant earning less, yet vacation times are shrinking in the United States, and in Europe as well. People would be happier, and in the long run and wealthier, if they bought basic functional appliances, automobiles, and wristwatches, and invested the money they saved for future consumption; yet, Americans and in particular spend almost everything they have – and sometimes more – on goods for present consumption, often paying a large premium for designer names and superfluous features.
5. Work on your strengths, not your weaknesses. How many of your New Year's resolutions have been about fixing a flaw? And how many of those resolutions have you made several years in a row? It's difficult to change any aspect of your personality by sheer force of will, and if it is a weakness you choose to work on, you probably won't enjoy the process. If you don't find pleasure or reinforcement along the way, then—unless you have the willpower of Ben Franklin—you'll soon give up. But you don't really have to be good at everything. Life offers so many chances to use one tool instead of another, and often you can use a strength to get around a weakness.

6. There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.

7. Letting off steam makes people angrier, not calmer. Pennebaker discovered that it's not about steam; it's about sense making. The people in his studies who used their writing time to vent got no benefit. The people who showed deep insight into the causes and consequences of the event on their first day of writing got no benefit, either: They had already made sense of things. It was the people who made progress across the four days, who showed increasing insight; they were the ones whose health improved over the next year.
8. Each of us thinks we see the world directly, as it really is. We further believe that the facts as we see them are there for all to see, therefore others should agree with us. If they don't agree, it follows either that they have not yet been exposed to the relevant facts or else that they are blinded by their interests and ideologies.

9. Words of wisdom, the meaning of life,perhaps even the answer sought by Borges's librarians—all of these may wash over us every day, but they can do little for us unless we savor them,engage with them, question them, improve them, and connect them to our lives.

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10 lessons from the book "The 80/20 Principle"



1. The Pareto Principle.
80% of outputs comes from 20% of inputs.
Another way of saying a majority of your results comes from a small percentage of your efforts.

2. 80/20 your happiness.
A small percentage of the things you do lead to a majority of your happiness and satisfaction.
They could be working out, playing sports, reading, playing with your kids, or long walks on the beach.
Find what fills you up and do it often.

3. Eliminate, automate, delegate.
20% of what you do leads to a majority of your happiness. The reverse is also true.
A small handful of things lead to your unhappiness.
Figure out what they are and eliminate, delegate, or automate them to improve your life.

4. You are where you are today because...
A few critical decisions led you to where you are today.
The decision to apply at your job, learn a new skill, or ask out the cute girl will change your life.
Focus your energy on the decisions that create long term impact.

5. 80/20 your finances.
A majority of big investment portfolios come from a few huge wins.
Make sure you make the right choice when considering what investments to buy.

6. Focus on important career skills.
Most of your career success comes from a few key skills:
• Sales
• Marketing
• Persuasion
• Offer creation
• Lead generation
Master these key skills and you'll dominate any industry.

7. Don't waste time.
If you were to audit your day, how much time do you think you waste?
How much of what you do truly moves you forward?
Menial tasks like scrolling social media don't move your life forward.
Focus on the 20% of tasks that do.

8. Reduce opportunity costs.
Businesses get most of their profits from 20% of their customers.
But their teams spend most of their time on the other 80%.
Identify the customers that are of low value and get rid of them.

9. Achieve more with less.
The Pareto principle applies to your efforts.
When you're working on a project, focus on the 20% that gets most of the project done.

10. Learn anything faster.
Learn faster than your competitors by learning the 20% that gives you the most understanding.
There isn't enough time to specialize in everything, but you can find time to know the critical components of any field.

"The 80/20 Principle" reveals how to amplify productivity both individually and in the workplace by demonstrating that not all efforts result in an equal amount of production and encouraging the adoption of the Pareto principle.

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10 lessons from the book "How To Finish Everything You Start"


1. Another reason for failing to finish is that you are so unprepared for interruptions that when one or more occur, you get thrown by it.

2. By far the #1 reason for leaving a task or project unfinished is having too much to do.

3. If you have a fear of failure, you will delay finishing a project, so you do not have to deal with the potential negative feedback that you fear. If you fear success, procrastination delays that scenario from happening.

4. If you end whatever you are trying to finish at a good point, it will be that much easier to pick right up again when you can get back to it.

5. Make whatever you are procrastinating about the very first activity that you tackle first thing in the morning, or when you first get to the office.


6. F = Focus on one priority task.
I= Ignore interruptions or distractions.
N = Now is the time, not later or tomorrow.
I= Initiate and innovate so you keep going.
S = Stay the course however tough it gets.
H = Hail finishing by celebrating your accomplishment.

7. Be open to trying new things and even fresh ideas or even new technology that might make it faster, easier, or better to finish what you started.

8. Those who have too many
unfinished projects or activities often are trying to do everything themselves.

9. Here is what his SMART acronym stands for:
S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Assignable
R = Realistic
T= Time-related

10. "Should I have started this in the first place?"
If your answer is, "No, then it is okay to leave it unfinished, whatever it is.

This practical business book by an internationally acclaimed time management expert helps listeners understand why they're not finishing projects and what to do about it, including using Dr. Yager's unique F-I-N-I-S-H technique. It also goes beyond a "do this, not that" approach to help you develop a deeper insight into what you should be committing to in the first place!

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12 powerful lessons from the book "The Power of Your Subconscious Mind"



1. The only path by which another person can upset you is through your own thought.

2. Busy your mind with the concepts of harmony, health, peace, and good will, and wonders will happen in your life.

3. The way to get rid of darkness is with light; the way to overcome cold is with heat; the way to overcome the negative thought is to substitute the good thought.
Affirm the good, and the bad will vanish.

4. Give no one in all the world the power to deflect you from your goal, your aim in life, which is to express your hidden talents to the world, to serve humanity, and to reveal more and more of God's wisdom, truth, and beauty to all people in the world
Remain true to your ideal.

5. Never finish a negative statement; reverse it immediately, and wonders will happen in your life.

6. All of us have our own inner fears, beliefs, opinions.
These inner assumptions rule and govern our lives.
A suggestion has no power in and of itself.
Its power arises from the fact that you accept it mentally.
7. As you sow in your subconscious mind, so shall you reap in your body and environment.

8. You grow old when you lose interest in life, when your mind is open to new ideas, new interests, and when you raise the curtain and let in the sunshine and inspiration of new truths of life and the universe, you will be young and vital.

9. Age has its own glory, beauty, and wisdom that belong to it.

10. The law of attraction attracts to you everything you need, according to the nature of your thought life.
Your environment and financial condition are the perfect reflection of your habitual thinking.
Thought rules the world.

Think evil and evil follows.
You are what you think all day long.

12. The truth is you can acquire any quality you want by acting as though you already have it.

The central point of the book is that you can use your imagination to suggest ideas to your subconscious to get what you want. If repeated often enough, your mind will then steer your behavior more towards making those ideas a reality, unbeknownst to you.

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7 lessons from the book "Master Your Emotions"




1. You're not responsible for people's thoughts. In fact, what people think of you is none of your business.

2. Thoughts generate emotions and emotions dictate your actions.

3. Most of us have too much emotional baggage and need to learn to let go of it. We need to declutter our subconscious and get rid of the negative emotions preventing us from enjoying life to the fullest.

4. The quality of your sleep and how much of it you get affects

5. Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die

6. You become what you think about all day long.

7. The first thing to understand is that emotions come and go. One moment you feel happy, the next you feel sad.

In this book, the author teaches readers how to triumph over emotions and use them for their personal growth, sharing a simple formula to transform negative emotions into positive attitudes, offering 31 strategies to cope with depressing situations, and a lot more.

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