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7 lessons from the book "Atomic Habits"



1. "The most effective way to change your habits is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become."

2. "You get what you repeat.
Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your habits.
Your weight is a lagging measure of your eating habits.
Your net worth is a lagging measure of your financial habits."

3. "Changing our habits is challenging for two reasons:
(1) We try to change the wrong thing and
(2) We try to change our habits in the wrong way."
4. "The culture we live in determines which behaviors are attractive to us.
We tend to adopt habits that are praised and approved of by our culture.
This is mainly because we have a strong desire to fit in and belong to the tribe."

5. "One of the most effective things you can do to build better habits is to join a culture where:
(1) Your desired behavior is the normal behavior and
(2) You already have something in common with the group."

6. "Habits are attractive when we associate them with positive feelings and unattractive when we associate them with negative feelings.
Create a motivation ritual by doing something you enjoy immediately before a difficult habit."

Pick the wrong habit and life is a struggle."
Habits are easier when they align with your natural abilities.
And play a game that favors your strengths.
Atomic Habits is the definitive guide to breaking bad behaviors and adopting good ones in four steps, showing you how small, incremental, everyday routines compound into massive, positive change over time.

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8 powerful quotes from the book "Everything is F*cked"



1. "You must love someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise it's not truly love."

3. "Because pain is the universal constant of life, the opportunities to grow from that pain are constant in life. All that is required is that we don't numb it, that we don't look away."

4. "The problem isn't that we don't know how not to get punched in the face. The problem is that, at some point, likely a long time ago, we got punched in face, and instead of punching back, we decided we deserved it."



7. "Living well does not mean avoiding suffering; it means suffering for the right reasons."

8. "Don't hope for better. Just be better.
Be something better. Be more compassionate, more resilient, more humble, more disciplined. [...]
Be a better human."

Everything is F*cked explains what's wrong with our approach towards happiness and gives philosophical suggestions that help us make our lives worth living.

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8 powerful quotes from the book "The Power Of Habit"



1. "Change might not be fast and it isn't always easy.
But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped."

2. "The Golden Rule of Habit Change:
You can't extinguish a bad habit, you can only change it."

3. "Champions don't do extraordinary things. They do ordinary things, but they do them without thinking, too fast for the other team to react.
They follow the habits they've learned."
4. "Willpower isn't just a skill. It's a muscle, like the muscles in your arms or legs, and it gets tired as it works harder, so there's less power left over for other things."

5. "Rather, to change a habit, you must keep the old cue, and deliver the old reward, but insert a new routine."

6. "If you believe you can change - if you make it a habit - the change becomes real."

7. "This is the real power of habit: the insight that your habits are what you choose them to be."

8. "Small wins are a steady application of a small advantage."

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10 lessons from the book "365 Days With Self-Discipline"




1. Life's easy when you live it the hard way... and hard if you try to live it the easy way.

2. Your choices are made in a moment, but their consequences will transcend a lifetime.

3. Self-discipline comes down to choosing between instant and delayed gratification.

4. Quitting when you're panicked is dangerous and expensive. The best quitters are the ones who decide in advance when they're going to quit. You can always quit later so wait until you're done panicking to decide.
5. No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.

6. In order to succeed, you must have a long-term focus. Most of the challenges in our lives come from a short-term focus.

7. Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.

8. If you use moderation as an excuse not to push your limits, you're mistaking moderation with mediocrity.

9. Most of us dread the deadening of the body and will do anything to avoid it. About the deadening of the soul, however, we don't care one iota.

10. I think if you do something and it turns out pretty good, then you should go do something else wonderful, not dwell on it for too long. Just figure out what's next.

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7 lessons from the book "Winning The War In Your Mind"



1. OUR LIVES ARE ALWAYS MOVING IN THE DIRECTION OF OUR strongest thoughts. What we think shapes who we are.

2. Your liberation is a simple two-step process:
• Remove the lie.
• Replace it with truth.

3. The battle for your life is won or lost in your mind. Your thoughts will control you, so you have to control your thoughts.

4. YOU CANNOT DEFEAT
WHAT YOU CANNOT DEFINE.

5. UNLESS WE DECIDE TO BREAK THE PATTERN, OUR LIVES WILL CONTINUE MOVING IN THE WRONG DIRECTION.

6. YOU CANNOT CONTROL
WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU, BUT YOU CAN CONTROL HOW YOU FRAME IT

7. Who you are today is a result of your thoughts in the past.
Who you become in the future will reflect what you think about today.

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12 powerful lessons from the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck"



1. Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.
Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires.

2. Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it.
In contrast, if you're able to not give a f*ck about the pain, you become unstoppable.

3. You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon.
And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give.
And if you go around giving a f*ck about everything and everyone — well, then you're going to get f*cked.

4. Travel is a fantastic self-development tool, because it extricates you from the values of your culture and shows you that another society can live with entirely different values and still function and not hate themselves.

5. The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience.
And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience.

6. Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a f*ck about what's truly f*ckworthy.

7. To be happy we need something to solve.
Happiness is therefore a form of action;

8. Being wrong opens us up to the possibility of change.
Being wrong brings the opportunity for growth.

9. Unhealthy love is based on two people trying to escape their problems through their emotions for each other — in other words, they're using each other as an escape.
Healthy love is based on two people acknowledging and addressing their own problems with each other's support.

10. This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our successes.

11. The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.

12. Don't just sit there.
Do something.
The answers will follow.

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7 lessons from the book "Be Water, My Friend"



1. Empty your mind.
Be formless, shapeless, like water.
You put water into a cup; it becomes the cup.
You put water into a teapot; it becomes the teapot.
You put it into a bottle; it becomes the bottle.
Now water can flow, or it can crash!
Be water, my friend.

2. When man is living, he is soft and pliable; when he is dead, he becomes rigid. Pliability is life; rigidity is death, whether we are speaking of the body, the mind, or the spirit. Be pliable.

3. Each day, we are different, and circumstances are differ-ent. Even when a situation you have encountered before appears to be the same, it's not. Nothing is constant.

4. The usefulness of a cup is in its emptiness.

5. I fear not the man who has practiced ten thousand kicks once.
But I fear the man who has practiced one kick ten thousand times.

6. Believe me that in every big thing or achievement there are always obstacles, big or small, and the reaction one shows to such obstacles is what counts, not the obstacle itself. Ihere is no such thing as defeat until you admit it to yourself, but not until then!

7. Do not condemn; do not justify. To truly understand there must be a state of choiceless awareness in which there is no sense of comparison or condemnation, no waiting for a further development of the thing we are talking about in order to agree or disagree.

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10 lessons from the book "The Miracle Morning"




Don't put energy into wishing your life was different/easier or complaining about what should be.
Focus your energy on making the best of what you have.

2. Choose your story wisely.
We cannot control everything that happens in our lives but we do have the choice of what meaning to assign those events.
It is our responsibility to choose the most empowering reasons for the events and challenges of our lives.

3. Have faith in yourself and your worth.
You are just as worthy, deserving and capable of creating and sustaining extraordinary health, wealth, happiness, love and success in your life as any other person on earth.

4. Trust in your life.
Know that wherever you are in your life right now is both temporary, and exactly where you are supposed to be...
You have arrived at this moment to learn what you must learn, so you can become the person you need to be to create the life you truly want.

5. Success comes through becoming a person who can be successful.
You must develop yourself into the person you need to be to consistently attract, create and sustain the level of success you want.
Success is something you attract by the person you become.

6. We all struggle against mediocrity.
We all know what to do to be happier, and yet we all struggle to do them.
If you you want to live an extraordinary life then you must identify the fundamental causes of mediocrity so you can prevent them from robbing you of the life you want.

7. Your mornings become your days and your days become your life.
Your morning routine (or lack thereof) dramatically affects your levels of success in every single area of your life.
Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive successful days and life.

8. Our past is not our future.
Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you go depends entirely on who you choose to be from this moment on.

9. Choose what's right versus what's easy.
Today is the most important day of your life.
Now matters more than any other time because the decisions you are making and actions you are taking determines who you are going to be for the rest of your life.

10. The way you wake up determines the life you will have.
When you hit the snooze button, you're in a state of resistance to your day and to waking up and creating the life you say you want.
Everyone wants to be successful, but wanting is rarely an effective strategy for getting.

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8 powerful quotes from the book "Never Split The Difference"



1. "He who has learned to disagree without being disagreeable has discovered the most valuable secret of negotiation."

2. "Conflict brings out truth, creativity, and resolution."

3. "If you approach a negotiation thinking the other guy thinks like you, you are wrong. That's not empathy, that's a projection."

4. "The beauty of empathy is that it doesn't demand that you agree with the other person's ideas."

5. "Hope is not a strategy."

6. "Negotiation is not an act of battle; it's a process of discovery. The goal is to uncover as much information as possible."

7. "Another simple rule is, when you are verbally assaulted, do not counterattack.
Instead, disarm your counterpart by asking a calibrated question."

8. "The fastest and most efficient means of establishing a quick working relationship is to acknowledge the negative and diffuse it."

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7 lessons from the book "The Courage To Be Disliked"



1. Unhappiness is something you choose for yourself.

2. We are not living to satisfy other people's expectations.

3. The important thing is not what one is born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.

4. There is no need to compare oneself with others.

5. You should arrive at answers on your own, and not rely upon what you get from someone else. Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures; they're of no value.

6. The feeling of inferiority can be a trigger for striving and growth.

7. Your life is decided here and now.

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8 powerful lessons from the book "Why We Sleep"



1. "The best bridge between despair and hope is a good night's sleep."

2. "Inadequate sleep disrupts blood sugar levels so profoundly that you would be classified as pre-diabetic."

3. "Sleep is the single most effective thing we can do to reset our brain and body health each day."

4. "The shorter your sleep, the shorter your life.
The leading causes of disease and death in developed nations all have recognized causal links to a lack of sleep."

5. "Practice does not make perfect. It is practice, followed by a night of sleep, that leads to perfection."

6. "Routinely sleeping less than six or seven hours a night demolishes your immune system, more than doubling your risk of cancer."

7. "When sleep is abundant, minds flourish. When it is deficient, they don't."

8. "Humans are not sleeping the way nature intended. The number of sleep bouts, the duration of sleep, and when sleep occurs has all been comprehensively distorted by modernity."

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5 Top Lessons from the Book "Dare to Lead" by Brené Brown



1⃣ Leaders as learners, not knowers.
👉 Leaders with a learner or growth mindset model and help their organization avoid perfectionism and foster healthy striving. 

🤠 Empathy is not connecting to an experience, it's connecting to the emotions that underpin an experience.
🔹 Sympathy is feel for me and can be condescending. Empathy is feeling with me.

3⃣ Five empathy skills
1. To see the world as others see it
2. To be nonjudgmental
3. To understand another person's feelings
4. To communicate your understanding of that person's feelings
5. Mindfulness

4⃣ Leaders Shift from Shame and Blame to Guilt and Accountability
👉 Brown describes that in unhealthy organizations there is "too much shame and blame, not enough accountability and learning.

5⃣ Leaders Practice Self-Management
Brown describes the practice of calm as "creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity
🔹 Sacred pause and widest perspective helps us solve problems with creativity and compassion rather than rigidity and reactivity

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Top 9 Lessons From the Book "Stop Overthinking"



1⃣ What exactly is overthinking?
- Overthinking is when you excessively analyze, evaluate, ruminate, and worry about certain things to a point where it starts affecting your mental health because you simply can't stop.

2⃣ There are two main sources of anxiety
1. The first one is ourselves. Unfortunately, some of us are just genetically predisposed to being more anxious than others.

3⃣ There are many negative consequences to overthinking
- These include physical, mental, and even social harms that can become long-term issues. Some examples are racing heart, dizziness, feelings of fatigue, irritability, nervousness, headaches, muscle tension, etc.
4⃣ 4As of Stress Management
- The first thing you need to remember is a mantra called the 4 As of stress management.
1. Avoiding
- Avoiding things entails simply walking away from things you can't control.
- Some things are simply not worth the effort and are best removed from our environments altogether.
2. Alter
- However, if we can't avoid it, we must learn how to alter our environment to remove the stressor.
3. Accept
- If we can't alter our environment, we have no choice but to accept it.
4. Adapt
- If we can't do much about the situation at all, we must adapt to it and learn how to cope with our stressor and reduce its damaging potential to a minimum.

5⃣ Journaling
-When we overthink, we have tons of different thoughts swirling in our mind, which can feel overwhelming.
- However, when we write these down systematically, we can analyze them and evaluate whether these thoughts are merited at all.

- We seldom take time out for adequate leisure and relaxation, so we must consciously do this in order to improve our anxiety levels.
- Some tips to follow are making regular to-do lists, prioritizing your tasks in the order of your actual preference.

7⃣ SMART Goals
- This stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time-bound goals.
- Assess how this goal is relevant to your value system and what purpose achieving it will fulfill in your life. Lastly, set a time limit for completing this goal.
8⃣ Autogenic Training
- Through this, we aim to gain control over our thoughts and emotions through six different exercises.

9⃣ Progressive Muscle Relaxation
- This technique relies on the theory that physical relaxation leads to mental relaxation. So, the goal is to physically relax your muscles by first tensing them up.

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9 Powerful Lessons From the Book "Shoe Dog"



1️⃣ Start Before You're Ready
❌ The founder of Nike 'faked it until he made it'
When successful people see opportunity, they don't hesitate to seize it.

2️⃣ Sell Enthusiasm
👉 It's easy to sell something you believe in.
People, sensing your belief, wanted some of that belief for themselves."

3️⃣ Resist Conformity
🤓 Parents and society push us towards security.
Parents want their kids to avoid risks, even if that also means avoiding the adventure that makes life interesting.

4️⃣ Seek a Calling, Not a Career
🚫 Never settle for a job. Seek a calling. Even if you don't know what that means, seek it.
If you're following your calling, the fatigue will be easier to bear, the disappointments will be fuel, the highs will be like nothing you've ever felt.

5️⃣ Go Public: Seeking greater connection is what life is about
👉 Have faith in yourself, but also have faith in faith
Faith, however our hearts choose to define it, is absolutely essential if we're aiming to be bold and adventurous.

6️⃣ Fail Fast
❗️ If you're going to fail, then you'd better fail as fast as you can.
That way, you'll have enough time to apply any wisdom that you've gained towards your next crazy idea.

7️⃣ Build a Brand
👉 While it's very valuable to have a brand, maybe the name itself doesn't matter as much as we think
Nike by any other name would be a very similar company. Nike didn't become successful because of a perfect name, but all the other parts of their business

8️⃣ Experiment Constantly
Keys to innovation is often developing products based on intuition, not market research.
"The public does not know what is possible, but we do."- Founder of Sony

9️⃣ Don't Micromanage
🚫 Don't tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with the results.
True authority and true leadership come from knowing who you are and not pretending to be anything else.

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9 Lessons From the Book "Your Next Five Moves"




Know What You Want
👉 You need to identify what matters the most to you to put a strategy together that fits your level of commitment and vision.
Making a plan and committing to it will unleash all the energy and discipline you'll ever need.

2 Define your purpose by asking:
🔴 How do you want to be remembered?
🔴 How do you want to make an impact on other people's lives?
🔴 What does the greatest version of yourself look like?

3. Find Your "Blue Ocean"

Rather than competing in games where you're an underdog, find unexplored new markets in which you can win.
🚫 Don't complain that the game is rigged. Instead, find a game in which you have a differential advantage.

4 Act, Act, Act
👉 You will never reach your goals unless you act like the person you want to be from the very beginning.
The same is true for a company. For any company to be great, it needs to act like a great company long before it ever became one.

5 Power Of Processing Issues
Before you act on a problem, you must first "process" what's happening.
🤠 Great processing involves:
1. The ability to make effective decisions
2. Subjecting every difficult choice to a rigorous mental analysis
3. Playing out strategies

6 Eight Traits to become a great processor:
1. Ask lots of questions
2. Don't care about being right or wrong
3. Don't make excuses
4. Embrace challenges
5. Be curious
6. Prevent more problems than you solve
7. Learn to negotiate
8. Focus on permanently solving a problem

7 Build Right Team
Working effectively with others means the difference between enjoying the process and desperately seeking a day job while hiding under your desk.
🔴 Instead of being selfish and looking to see what you could take from others, focus on what you could give them

8 Create A Replacement Game Plan
🤓 The less your business depends on you, the more valuable it is.
As your company grows, you will constantly replace yourself with others.

9 Make People Accountable For Growth
🥇 The number one product is human capital.
You need someone that makes you accountable for your word. Find someone you respect who is willing to keep you accountable on a weekly basis.

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